Journey to Alison

Wednesday, April 18, 2007

Help This Father Understand....

9:15 pm Wednesday night. I didn't think I would be posting anymore today (yes, it's cheap, but 30 yuan an hour at the business center does eventually add up, right?) but I just can't listen to Alison cry anymore. I had to leave the room and go somewhere for a few minutes, hoping to clear my head a little.

Someting has happened in the past two days. I don't know if it's a delayed reaction or what, but the mild mannered Allie has now been crying continuously for the past twenty four hours. The only time she isn't crying or fussing is when she's sleeping or eating.

Call me naive, but I always thought that a baby's cry was due to some need not being met: either she's hungry, tired, or wet. But right now, there's nothing explaining her fussy-ness (is that even a word btw?). Maybe it's the teething, I don't know. But we try everything, including the ubiquitous "let's get her to concentrate on something else" routine. That works for about 30 seconds, before she figures out that she should be crying about something else. And man, does this girl have some lungs.....

Sometimes, it's like flipping a light switch on and off. Case in point: she won't scream and cry if you are holding her STANDING UP, but the moment you sit down, she starts crying again. Does that make any sense to anyone?

She cried throughout the entire passport appointment today. Funny thing is, the official there had to get a picture of her, so it'll be interesting to see what that photo looks like, when her Chinese passport is issued next week.

My nerves are fried....and I think my own tiredness is finally catching up to me. I knew this was going to happen....that taking Alison from the only situation she's even known, and from the only people she's ever known, would cause great sorrow and sadness in her. But like everything else on this journey, there is no way to prepare you for the real deal.

It's fortunate that we have had very little in terms of scheduled events the past three days. Tomorrow, however, starts the first of many tours here in Guangzhou, now that the Chinese part of the in-country paperwork is done. (Next week is the U.S. side). We are scheduled to visit the pearl store tomorrow, followed by a trip to an electronics market. I hope we are able to do both, but I really can't say. It'll probably depend on how Allie feels/acts.

Cordelia is still working on getting us out of Guangzhou next Friday. All the trains are full to Hong Kong, and I guess the flights are too. (The end of the 101st Canton Trade Fair being the culprit). She's now talking about us renting two vans---one for people, one for our luggage--to drive us the three hours to Hong Kong. And I guess there is quite a scheduling issue too that day...that is, we will be issued a U.S. visa for Allie on that Friday afternoon, and then we must get to Hong Kong by midnight to catch our flight to Seoul that night. Another faith building exercise for us.

Okay, I guess I'll check my mail and get back to the room. Thanks for listening.....

Blair

10 Comments:

  • At 8:06 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Just be patient! As scared as you are about the whole "new" situation I am sure Allie is even more so. Show her lots of love, that's what she needs. Oh, and I guess you have to stand for the rest of your lives.

     
  • At 8:11 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    hey blair, it's marce. boy, isn't it amazing that the moment you butt hits the chair she cranks it up a notch or two. expect to be fried for awhile, until she's 18 or so. :) did you bring any baby benadryl?
    that may help, especially you take some. don't worry, she'll cry alot, but it's totally normal, and leaving her in her crib to crywill not scar her for life. you brought earplugs, right? move her crib by a window, so she can look outside if she needs to distract herself. take turns, give eachother baby breaks, and don't beat yourself up about feeling exceedingly frustrated. we're praying for you guys. and she's soo cute! i finally got pictures.

     
  • At 9:39 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Hi Blair, Hang tough. When you get to the end of your rope tie a knot in it and hang on some more. Babies do cry and sometimes for no disernable reason. We as daddies have to give Mom a break (It also bonds us with our child.) and we walk and stand a lot while trying to do the impossible , comfort our child. There is hope and the attemps to give comfort will come back in spades;the most beautiful love in the world that of a child for their daddy. Good Luck the GodFodda.

     
  • At 2:28 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Hi new daddy!!! Oh blair we have all so been there. Now you see why the babes are at least a two person job!!! One gets a break while the other is on shift and then you switch out. i remember Maranda have crying fits from Gas pain we think lasting an hour and a half at a time and Jim and I would tag team and just when you were about to lose your mind (about ten min.) here would come your partner to relieve you and you dash off for solice until your next shift began ( about ten min. later, but whata great ten min it was) Just remember " this too shall pass" and your not alone!!!! you and Tami are in this together. i don't know how single parents do it, without that partner for relief and support and to later laugh or cry about it tgoehter. also, remeber that God doesn't give you anything you can't handle. He thinks alot of you and you are equipped for this, believe it!!! Plus, Jim and I will take her so you two can have date nights k? Adult conversation, somethign you will have a new appreciation for. ha ha!!!!
    Love you all bunches
    Joy

     
  • At 4:22 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    This will pass... So much adjustment will need to take place. (For all 3 of you.)

    Okay. Here's my chrisism (word?) for the day... When I first completely gave my life over to Christ Jesus, I had a really hard time letting go of my life as I knew it. (Even though it wasn't the best.) However, no matter how hard I cried and threw a tempertantrum, Christ knew what was best. He loved me unconditionally and held onto me, never lettin go. Boy, am I ever grateful.
    Well, it's know time to shower this same love on your baby girl. Hang on, no matter how much she screams, hollers, hits her head against the ground (yes, some kids do that. brain damage)- remember how much you love her, how much she needs you, and how much she'll grow to love you.
    Hang on and buckle up for the ride of being a parent! What an adventure! But it is soooooo worth every minute of it!

    We are praying for you three every minute.
    Blessings on your family!
    Your Sister in Christ,
    Christina Gustafson

    P.S. She's a cutie!!!

     
  • At 7:16 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Hi,
    Chrissy sent me the link to your blog. Congratulations first off!
    Secondly, about Allison crying when you sit down...so normal in my house! Emma is very particular and does exactly the same thing. I know you've already heard it but it will pass...and you'll miss it when it's gone (all be it a LONG while after it's gone). I look forward to following along for the rest of the journey.

     
  • At 9:24 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Blair,
    Congratulations and welcome to fatherhood. I can relate to what you are going through. It is not easy in the short run, but it is worth it in the long run. It took me about three months to adjust, but the long term benefits are worth it. Especially, when they first call you daddy. And in light of the tragedy at Virginia Tech, parenthood should never be taken for granted and you should treasure each moment you have with your child and cherish the memories. Hang in there buddy! It will get easier. Can't wait to see Allie when you get back.

    Paul

     
  • At 10:05 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Masenhiemer,quit yer whinning!!!!
    Just jokin buddy.
    I know what you are going through. Maranda used to cry everytime Joy would leave the room and I would sometimes feel like I was going to lose it.I remember Joy waiting for Maranda to fall asleep and then going shopping, thus Devon and I would be dreading her waking up before momma got home. Now here we are and I am still partially sane.Congratulations you two, this is so awsome I cant wait to meet the little screamer.You are going to make it; Great time to increase your prayer life bro!!!

    In His Mercy I Remain,
    Jim

     
  • At 10:18 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Hey Buddy, it's your friend the elvinator! I just want you to know that I'm praying for you and hang in there, you're going thru a tough phase, and I guarantee you there will be many more :)
    I know there is a time now that I miss my little girl at that age, crying or not, the time goes by fast so enjoy it while you can. Or at least as much as you can stand :)
    Love you both and can't wait to meet your (noisy) little bundle of joy.

     
  • At 8:14 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Hi Blair + Tami hope your haveing fun + Allison. love you

    Bye guys

    ~Troy

     

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